Signs of Being in Love

Love is a holy, wonderful feeling, which is deeply rooted in your mind. It is an expression of intense feelings for another person. It makes your life cheerful and full of enthusiam. Sometimes it happens that you know a person very well. He/she is your best friend. And suddenly you start feeling that you are in love with him/her. Sometimes you get introduced to a person and as you start meeting him/her frequently, you realize that you have developed some special feelings for him/her. You experience loneliness, restlessness without that person. You don't understand what is it? It's nothing but a great, heavenly feeling what is called love.

Signs of Being in Love

Love cannot be taught. Sometimes, you are not even aware when it happens. Falling in love with someone is an exciting, wonderful experience. It may also be bit confusing, if you are unfamiliar with this experience. You don't understand what is happening with you. If you know the signs of being in love, it will help relieve your confusion and understand your inner feelings.

• When you are in love with someone, you remember him/her all the time. You go on thinking about that person and the happy moments spent together. You are not even able to concentrate on your work.
• When you are in love, everything in daily life reminds you of him/her. When you see anything or do anything, you tend to recall the related memories of the moments that you spent with him/her.
• If you concern a lot about someone, then it indicates that you are in love. You always care about his/her safety and happiness. You experience an overwhelming urge that he/she should be happy and comfortable and should not be troubled by anything. It becomes your number one priority. You always try to protect that person.
• When you start loving someone, you become more cautious about your appearance. You naturally wish that you should look more attractive to him. You become attentive about your clothes and hairstyle, so that you would get an appreciation from him/her. You look more attractive and cheerful and it's because of your romantic mood. You also try to impress him/her by updating your knowledge about the current issues.
• When you love someone, you feel that no person is more attractive than the individual you love. You even don't notice the presence of other people. Your whole attention is concentrated on that individual only.
• Now you deny spending much time with your friends. You want to spend more time with him/her. You want to be alone and think more about your special person. Even though you are surrounded by your friends, you will find yourself constantly thinking about being with someone special.
• When you find someone interesting, you wish to know more about him/her. You want to know about his interests, likes and dislikes and career. You are eager to understand every detail of his/her life. You also try to do the things that he/she likes.
• There was a time, when you were cautious about time or spending the money. But when you are with someone special, you even don't think about time or how much money you spend to buy a gift for him/her.
• Loyalty is another name for love. You want to be loyal to him/her and expect the same from that person. He/she becomes the only concerned person for you.
• When you love someone, you tend to think about his/her expectations. You think about his/her views and needs and learn to compromise.
• You share some beautiful moments with him/her. You feel happy and excited when you plan about going to a party or picnics, attending a ceremony together. You start discussing the future plans.

Enjoy Life

Everyone wants to enjoy life to the fullest, and some people do it too, the only thing is that the people who know how to enjoy life and be happy are very less in number as compared to the majority of people in the world, who are unhappy with how their life is! By this statement I am not saying that they all are miserably sad and living forcefully, what I meant was that these people are living for survival and not enjoyment. Most of those who fall into this category will not agree to that, but the fact is, that in the race of achieving success, being ahead of others, making more money than others, at some point we all realize that life is not how we wanted it, it is however, just life! Before I tell you about how to enjoy life to the fullest, I want you to read this remarkable quote that inspires me everyday to appreciate the gift of life.

"The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company...a church...a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past...we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you...we are in charge of our Attitudes." ~ Charles R. Swindoll

Ways to Enjoy Life

I know, the first thing that you will expect on this list is spending a lot of money on luxuries! If you think so, then you will be surprised to know that money has nothing to do with real happiness! I agree, money is important for survival, but I somehow feel that that's how it should be! As quoted in the above saying, our attitude is the one responsible for our unhappiness. Another human tendency is greed, we have thousands of dollars but we crave for millions, we manage to get millions and then we want billions..., running to make a better life, we forget to live life. Money, after a certain point never gives happiness, on the contrary, it takes away what you have, it takes away your sense of valuing things, it makes you take things for granted and THIS is why we have forgotten how to enjoy life in the real way. So what should one do?

Be Grateful for What You Have
People tend to focus on their career, run after more money and work all the more hard. While their families look forward to spend some time with them, the weekends goes in playing golf with boss, yes, they do have a family, they are there, that's not important right now! Playing golf with boss might get them a promotion, more money! After all, they are doing the best for the family and the worst too. They are taking the most important thing in their life for granted. Yes, this would be your first step to learn how to enjoy life! The biggest mistake that we make is to take things for granted. What you need to realize is that if they are with you today, it's not necessary that they'll always be. If you analyze your life carefully, you will definitely realize what I am talking about.

Live Each Moment
Living each moment is the best way of how to be happy everyday, although, I won't blame the people who fail to do that. There is pressure - family, career, money - a lot of pressure. How do you expect us to enjoy each moment with so much pressure? Your kid comes to you to show his drawing, you are tensed, you shoo him away. What if you actually took a moment out to see what he has drawn, to see how your kid sees the world? What if you saw that drawing, praised your kid and then your kid kisses you saying 'I love you daddy'. Don't you think living that moment would have given you the strength to take the pressure, or maybe let go of it, even though it is for a few minutes? So live each moment, that's what actually counts.

Learn to Let Go
Letting go, the most difficult, yet the most important thing to be done in order to be happy and to be able to enjoy life. You can't enjoy with burdens of grudges and revenge, can you? As told by Charles R. Swindoll, "We cannot change our past...we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way", there are many people who hurt us, hurt us to such an extent that we change to a different person altogether. But why? After all, "we are in charge of our attitudes", right? Learn to let go of things by taking it as a lesson that life taught you. Very easily said, but equally difficult to do, forgiving others and letting go of negativity in your life will definitely make you enjoy your life to the fullest and focus on the more important things.

Look for The Positive Aspects
Letting go of the negative aspects and focusing on the positive aspects will make you view life with all the lessons and opportunities that it has. Every side of life has two coins, and your way to perceive it depicts how you lead your life! Read inspirational books that promote positive thinking, take great examples of people who flourished in life after great struggle and hardships. All you need to do is to believe in yourself, believe in the supreme power and believe that if life has brought you till the edge, it will either catch you when you fall, or teach you how to fly! That is why happy and optimists live longer as compared to people having a negative approach in life!

Slow Down, Life is a Journey, Not a Race
They say, "Life is a race, be quick or you will be left behind". They also say that "life consists of opportunities everywhere, you only need to widen your horizon and look closely". Reading these two statements make me wonder, if life is full of unseen opportunities everywhere, what's the harm in being left behind if that gives you happiness! Do you realize how many moments have you missed to enjoy in life just because of the fear that someone else might win the race! If racing gives you happiness, no problem, but if you are unhappy doing it, why do it?

Follow Your Passion
Continuing from the above point, if you are unhappy doing what you are doing, why are you doing it? Are you doing it because everyone else is doing it, or because it gives you more money! I follow example of the people who followed their passion and excelled in their passion to such an extent, that people started following them, money started following them! Life is so dynamic and ever changing that you never know what comes next. Sounds impractical to many people but then, what's the point of being practical if it doesn't give you happiness and doesn't allow you to enjoy life!

Spend Some Time With Nature
In our daily routine of going to work, school, colleges, meetings, etc., do you get the time to admire what is around you? The best way to find inner peace and happiness is to spend some time with nature. Just sit on the seashore and watch the waves come and go, climbing on a hill and watching the view, go fishing with your family, watching the sunrise or the sunset, seeing the stars twinkle in the night...do you know how this will help to enjoy life? It will teach you to value what you have, it will teach you to not take things for granted, it will teach you to understand the meaning of the phrase, 'This world is beautiful and so is life!'

Make Your Family Your Priority
After all, family is the most important thing that teaches you how to be happy in life, it is your own world in this world! Earning money to meet family's demands is not more important than spending sometime with your family and understanding what is it that they actually demand, is it money, or is it spending some fun time with you. I remember a story I read sometime ago, 'A five year old boy went to his father who was busy doing his office work and asked, "Father how much do you earn in an hour"? Father thought it was weird for his kid to ask this question but then he replied, "About a $100, why"? The son replied, "Father, can you give me $50?" Father got really upset for a 5 year old to ask for $50 and shouted at him asking why would he need so much of money! The son replied weeping, "I wanted to give you that $50 so that you spend half an hour with me".'

Pray
Of course you need mental strength to keep up with the challenges you face in life. If you believe in God, ask him for strength to help you enjoy your life and find inner peace, to treasure what he has given you. Trust me, prayers give you an unexplained strength to simplify the complications of life! Even God tells us the value of life in The Bible, Mathew 6:25, "Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes?"

Enjoyment and happiness never come on a physical level, it is a mental state which comes only when you manage to take life with a positive attitude and learn the secret of happiness. How to enjoy life is not difficult, what is difficult is to learn how to enjoy life with a resistant mind. There are a lot of ways to enjoy life, but all the ways require the same mindset...a positive one. So take a break and question yourself, how do you want to enjoy your life? You get only a single life, live it before you lose it! 

How to be Happy in Life

"If you want to be happy, be." Leo Tolstoy answered the eternal question that haunts the mind of every mortal human being in just one line. Why does happiness has to be so difficult to achieve, when it solely depends upon us? Newborn babies are the happiest lot in the world, with no fear, no worries about future, no grudges and no preconceived notions about anything or anyone. Unfortunately, as we grow up, worldly worries start working up their way upon our minds. Eventually, we become so possessed by these worries that we forget what happiness is. Then one fine day, it dawns upon us how unhappy we are and thereon, the pursuit of happiness begins. If you have begun your quest on how to be happy in life, then read the following advice. For more, read: self improvement.

How to be Happy in Your Life

Make a Choice
Happiness is a matter of choice. You either choose to be happy or you choose otherwise. It's that simple. A person who knows how to be happy, will always be happy, no matter what situation you put him into. On the other hand, a person who always finds faults with everyone and everything around him, cannot be happy, no matter how hard he tries. Thus, if you want to be happy, make a choice now, at this moment and you will indeed feel better.

Laugh a Lot
When you smile or laugh, the muscles in your face stimulate the brain to secrete 'happy chemicals.' These chemicals induce a feeling of wellness within you, which in turn makes you happy. Hence, find humor in everything around you. Laugh at yourself, laugh at your problems, laugh at your little worries and then see what difference it makes to your life. Sounds silly, but it does work!

Forget and Forgive
If you really want to be happy you need to forget others' mistakes and forgive them. Holding grudge against them will earn you nothing, instead it will make you even more unhappy. You don't need to be a saintly figure and have an extra large heart. Just letting go of others' faults every once in a while helps you to be happy. Also read personal development.

Blast the Past
Often, the dark shadows from our past loom large over our present and future. They ruin every single second of our life and turn it into a bad memory, which again comes to haunt us. Hence, let go of your past and any bad memories associated with it. Cut off any strings from the past that might be holding you and preventing you from leading a happy life in present. Read more on confidence.

Learn to Give
'Giving' is an immensely satisfying experience and the joy of giving cannot be expressed in words. Giving anything, be it wealth, art, skill, wisdom, can bring happiness to your life. One who gives all his life ends up leading a happy life than the one who concentrates only on making money or deriving large profits.

Develop a Vision
How you view things around you depends upon your own perspective. If you have a very positive outlook towards life, you will develop a vision, wherein you would start taking everything in your favor. As a result, you will find nothing wrong to complain about. This will make you happy in the long run.

When Hope is Lost...

Hope is almost always,
A companion of a good heart.
A heart that pours in seamlessly,
And where reasoning is set free.

That seems to know the equation
Between action and reaction.
Brimmed with patience, where
You still believe that truth always wins.

Who says hopelessness is hopeless!
Nevertheless...
Hopelessness is hopefulness in disguise...
Hopefulness for the unexpected,
Readiness to accept all that comes one's way,
Expecting to take over the worst.

The best part about hopelessness is
When it comes...
There are no strings attached,
It comes splashing in the face.

TO remind you about the practical
Difference, between truth and reality.

Teaching you a lesson
That you got to keep learning
Each step, every moment.

Dreams would be "simply" imaginations,
As most of them always are!
That aspirations, emotions
And the "very" hope
That are ALL invisible entities,
Cannot choose to have visible repercussions.

And that brains would create
Far more ripples and always win
Over heart and soul...

When hope is lost
Everything is lost
So, then there is nothing precious
To lose thereafter...

Rendering an empty heart,
With no fluttering.
And a soulless soul,
With no life.

Waiting...
Just for the sequence of destined events.
To re-occur time and again...
With no hope or perhaps a 'new' hope! 

Happy Life!

The world so big
The morning so bright
We get up early
And behold the sight

The daily routine we follow
Each task never to be left hollow
Strive to achieve in a fashion
That will just prove your passion

The day to a close it draws
It's like we've been through life's little wars
The sense of achievement we feel
Lets us sleep in peace after our meal

Only to face another day
Hoping to be happy and gay
Life is what we make of it
So run along and enjoy every bit. 

 

 

 

How to be Happy Everyday

All of us wish to be happy in our life. It is happiness for which we work hard and earn money. But, to be happy, only money and status is not sufficient. It is important to have the right attitude towards life. It has been observed that many people are frustrated, unsatisfied and unhappy even though they have achieved great heights in their career. The tips and methods of how to be happy everyday given below will help you in a big way.

Can We Be Happy All the Time?

Is it possible to be happy everyday? Being happy everyday is possible only by doing those things which we like from our heart. If we look around ourselves, we will find many people who keep doing things due to the pressure from their parents, peers or other members of the society. When you do a task which you do not like at all or which does not give you any pleasure or satisfaction, you end up being unsuccessful in it. So, when you see people with you getting great success in the same job, you naturally feel frustrated and heart broken. This feeling of sorrow after failure could have been avoided if you had recognized your talents, skills and strengths by yourself and entered only those fields which you feel comfortable in.

Our lifestyle too, plays a major role in keeping us happy. If you are looking for the answer to how to be happy in life, you need to change the way you look at life. A fully stressed out person who has no time for recreation is more prone to physical ailments and emotional troubles such as anxiety and depression. Whenever our body does not assist us, we naturally feel very unhappy. So, to beat this situation, one should maintain a good lifestyle by exercising daily and waking up and going to bed early. Eat good homemade food instead of the outside food to satisfy the nutritional requirements of your body. Learn the techniques of meditation and yoga to keep your mind stable even in adverse conditions. By doing these things, you will observe that you are much happier than you used to be earlier.

Your hobbies can definitely be included in the list of things to make you happy. If you like singing, join a singing class and learn it right from the basics. Playing musical instruments like guitar, synthesizer and violin can make you feel happy and peaceful. Drawing sketches, painting, sculpture are some other hobbies which you can try for happiness and pleasure.

Socializing is a big way of being happy. When you step out of your home and meet people who are senior as well a junior to you, you get to learn a lot of things which you can't learn by sitting inside your home. Interact with people, understand their way of living and make amendments in your own ways for improving your living. For all those who are fond of traveling, going to a beautiful holiday destination with your friends can be a bundle of joy for you.

Another suggestion on how to be happy everyday is to find your love. Relationships, if running smoothly, can give you a lot of happiness. You will always cherish the romantic moments you spent with your loved one. These moments can give you more joy than any other achievement in your life. If you want to know how to be happy in a relationship, you have to keep in mind that not giving up is the key. In every relation, what works best is honesty and trust.

Hopefully, after reading this article, you will surely understand how to be happy everyday. You should remember that satisfaction in life is the key for happiness. 

Why do Happy and Optimists live longer?

Bobby McFerrin sang the ever-popular song "Don't worry, Be Happy". Ever wonder where he got the idea from? Or what made this song so popular? The song and now mantra "Don't worry, Be Happy" makes people feel good about life. Joie de Vivre, Happy and optimism are all words associated with optimistic people.

So life is the gift for people who are happy and optimistic. Or rather long life is the gift for them. Why is this, who do happy and optimists live longer? The reasons are several but the result is the same, people who are happy live longer, seven and a half years longer than those who are pessimists and depressed all the time.

Notice here that I am not talking about people who live life with rose-colored glasses or those who are extremely optimistic and live life on the edge. Here we are discussing those people who look on the brighter side of life and do not get depressed easily. These are the people who live longer and better.

Happy heart, healthy heart.
Studies across the world have proved that people who are happy and have a positive outlook of life live healthier and longer lives. Now let's figure out why. Those who are happy and optimistic have lesser cardio logical problems; these also refer to coronary diseases and angina. People who are more optimistic also heal faster and have a faster recovery rate than those who are bleak and pessimistic about their health. The rate of rehospitalization after heart surgery also drops with the more optimistic lot.

Strike out strokes with optimism
According to research and studies conducted, those who are optimistic are less likely to suffer from strokes. Depression can lead to strokes, which can be fatal. Those who are less depressed, and less likely to have a stroke as compared to those suffering from clinical depression. Remember a stroke can lead to partial or full disability when not fatal. So avoid the occurrence of a stroke with a more optimistic outlook to life.

The 'age'-old mantra: Optimism?
What is your outlook on aging? Don't think this question is important? Think again! Research proves that those who are happy and optimistic about aging live longer, seven and a half years longer. So instead of working so hard on your blood pressure and cholesterol levels (and I am not saying don't) why not just think happy and live longer!

And the result is...

• Optimists have fewer health complications as compared to pessimists
• Those who are happy experience less pain.
• Happy people are more energetic.
• Being happy also leads to being peaceful.
• Optimism leads to lesser problems at work and lesser amounts of stress.

So let's just say...if you want to live longer, you need to be happy and optimistic about it. 

How not to be happy

Why my son, you make such a ridiculous question?

Or are you just landing on earth from somewhere in galaxy and really don't know how not to be happy?

Or for any other weird reasons, you still want to be not happy?

Well my son, if you choose not to be happy, it is something quite easy to be achieved. I will tell you ten sure ways of how not to be happy

1) Make your best friend hates you.

You can lie to him for instance, or break some promises or you can even snatch his girl right in front of his eyes. Then he will start to hate you. The more he hates you, the better it will be.

2) Make your lover think that you are really lousy and also happen to be a womanizer.

You can take pictures with nasty girls in some hot pose and show it to her. Make her heart break. Give her hope and then break it spectacularly.

3) Let you worst enemy be your boss.

You happen to be a subordinate to a man that you really hate and despise. You have no choice, but to follow his order. And let him belittle you. You do it day in, day out.

4) Call the one who happens to borrow your money for a long time but still reluctant to pay your hard earned money. What you must do is really simple. Offer him some more money to be borrowed. 

5) Spend a lot of time doing something you really hate to do. It must be something that will waste your energy, time and probably money. In case you really hate to go fishing for example, go fishing then.

6) Do something that could damage your reputation or bring down your dignity. For example you could try to be a cleaner in a factory which happens to have lots of young women employee. And one of these women happens to be the one who you really admire and want to be serious.

7) Make a guilty plea to a serious case of criminal which you are absolutely not guilty at all. Spend some time in prison. You shall get first hand experience of how not to be happy.

8) Go to somewhere really far and cut all your family and friends relationship. Don't tell them your whereabouts. Let them suffer for missing you. At the same time, you suffer alone in a foreign land.

9) Marry somebody which you really hate. To make it even better, marry someone who are already menopause and happen to have lot of kids. And don't forget to invite your favorite girl to come along to your wedding. 

10) Do something stupid. Anything. For example like asking this kind of question and getting a really serious answers which are hard to swallow.

Do all or some of these steps. You are sure not to be happy. By the way, happy reading. Or are you not?

Make Your Girlfriend Happy

Tips to Keep Your Girlfriend Happy

 

Loyalty is the best policy
If you want to keep your girlfriend happy, be loyal to her, it is as simple as that. We know that those occasional flings are too hard to resist, but those can have catastrophic effects on your relationship. Being loyal doesn’t really mean that you won’t be infatuated by other women, but what it really means is that every time you become vulnerable, remember that there is someone who loves you and trusts that you won't do any wrong. Faithfulness should be looked upon as a virtue rather than a lethargy of custom.

Sweet nothings
Start the day with a good morning message and wish her a great day ahead. If you have a busy schedule and don’t really have time to talk, texting can always be a great option. Tell her that you miss her and are looking forward to spend some quality time with her. With the help of some nice love things to say to your girlfriend, you can ensure that she is happy and excited with the relationship.

The first date
To break the monotony, try meeting her with the same vigor and excitement that you had when you met her for the first time. Dress the way you used to in your courtship days and propose to her once again. A romantic evening can bring life back to your relationship. Public displays of affection will also make her feel happy and special.

Gifts
All of us like to be gifted but women seem to have an extraordinary fascination for them. No surprises then that the best way to make your girlfriend happy is to surprise her with some cute gifts. If you are someone who is not good at expressing your feelings then gifts are the ideal way to make her happy. We can't really advice you what you should gift her as women seem to have varied tastes and it essentially depends upon your girlfriend's personality type. If you have been in a relationship long enough, you might exactly know what gifts would make her happy.

Apologize
In a relationship, there are always moments when saying sorry becomes a prestige issue. Both the partners feel that they aren’t the one to blame, so there is no way they are going to apologize. Well, remember that someone needs to budge otherwise the issue may keep lingering on. You have to remember that the person on the other side loves you earnestly, so your ego should never come in between the relationship.

Make her laugh
A good sense of humor can really turn the clumsiest moments into moments of benevolence. In a relationship, there will always be situations wherein both partners will get worked up, but as a boyfriend, it is your responsibility to make her see the funny side of it. Laughter can work as an elixir in troubled times and help your relationship to flourish.

These were some tips that can help you in making your girlfriend happy. We haven’t stated anything that you might not know but as we said earlier that over a period of time in a relationship, we get so used to things that we start taking the other person for granted. It is essential that we always put in an effort to make our relationship much more special. We hope this article would have helped you with so much information on how to make your girlfriend happy

How to Be Happy in a Relationship

It's always an exciting feeling to be in a relationship. The most important thing that's on your mind when you think of being with your Mr. Right is how long will this relationship last? Well, the more important thing to worry about is how to be happy in a relationship. At the end of the day, healthy relationships are those where the guy and the girl are just happy to be together! So given below are a few tips on how to be happy in a relationship

Happy Relationship Tips

How to be Happy in a Relationship: Equal in All Matters
Always remember that you and your partner are equal in all matters. Irrespective of who earns more or who works longer hours (at work or at home!) never draw comparisons. This only leads to unnecessary fights, which may turn really ugly. So always try and instead amicably split all the work and responsibilities. If one person is doing the dishes, the other one shouldn't have a problem with getting the laundry done. Once you establish that you're partner is as good as you in all matters, it will help you understand and appreciate what all he /she does for you.

How to be Happy in a Relationship: Communicate
The most important tip when it comes to maintaining a happy relationship is to communicate. Most couples create distances between themselves because they fail to communicate. And it is this communication gap that leads to small issues being blown out of proportion. Often many relationship counselors claim that it is the failure of couples to talk out matters that lead to the failure of a relationship. Hence, the best thing is that if you have something on your mind, talk it out. Nothing should be swept under the carpet, as it will only resurface later, bigger and meaner. Furthermore, saying some nice things, or reading out some happy relationship poems and happy relationship quotes will only make it better.

How to be Happy in a Relationship: Get That Spark Back!
It's often seen that after a while any relationship becomes monotonous. Everything that a couple does seems to be repetitive and boring and there's no romance left. In such cases, it is best to do things which will help bring that spark right back into your relationship. Go for a trek, join a dance class or just think of some other creative way which will ensure that you two spend some quality time together. In the end, what counts is that you should always have something fun to do at hand. Don't wait for your relationship to stagnate to such an extent that the damage becomes irreversible. Read more on healthy relationship tips.

How to be Happy in a Relationship: Give Each Other Space!
Any relationship is meant to be comforting. In other words, you shouldn't get claustrophobic while being with the other person. You do need to spend quality time together but at the same time, you also need to give each other the required space. Let him go out for his boys night outs and let her enjoy some quality time with her girlfriends. If he or she wishes to spend some time with his pr her own group of friends or even with colleagues at work, don't immediately get suspicious and let any kind of jealousy in relationship jeopardize what you have. Instead let him or her have fun with his or her friends to such an extent, that he or she starts missing you! After all, you can't miss someone unless they go away! Read more on how to make a relationship last.

In the end, no matter how much relationship advice you are given, unless and until you want the relationship to work, no one else can help you. So, now that you know how to be happy in a relationship, go out there and make the magic happen

How to Become Happy

Some people say that they are happy when some gives them gifts, some people say that they are happy when they are promoted and so on. But, to tell you the truth that is not the correct definition of happiness. A person experiences happiness when he is at peace with himself, when he experiences none of the negative human feelings like jealousy, grief, anger, frustration, etc. I don't know how many of you agree but some say that achievement of complete happiness, by getting rid of all the negative emotions (for a normal human being and not a saint), is not possible. People travel miles in search for complete happiness. If not complete, this article can at least tell you how to become happy most of the time in your lives. If you need the answers then you have to read about the various ways to be happy in this article

Some Simple Ways to be Happy

If you are expecting that this article will help get rid of all your sorrows and sadness, then don't do that because they are a part of our lives. If our life was only full of happiness and joy, then it would have been boring. It's the combination of both, which makes life more enjoyable. This article will tell you how one can lift up their spirits when they are sad and how to become happy again.

Love Yourself
The next time when you think and brood over the fact that 'No one loves me', just pause and ask yourself, 'Do I love myself?' Most of the time the answer will be no. People who love themselves, will never ask this question. Until and unless you learn to love yourself, you can never expect others to love you. Start loving yourself first, love the way you look, the way you talk etc and only then will people start loving you. Loving yourself makes you more confident and that confidence brings you happiness. Everyday, after you get up in the morning, say to yourself, 'I love myself and I am the best', and you will see the difference within days. So the first thing that you have to learn is how to become happy with yourself.

Smile Always
Remember that song by Boyzone, Smile, an everlasting smile, a smile can bring you near to me..." They couldn't have said better. A smile can take you miles. When you are sad and depressed next time, just look into the mirror and smile at yourself. It will be difficult when you are really sad but there is no harm in trying. Keep that smiling face for several minutes and soon you will realize that your spirits are lifting. No matter where you are, a smile can do wonder, it can make your day. Remember, that you look beautiful when you smile and when you look beautiful, how can you not be happy.
"Always wear a smile. The gift of life will then be yours to give."- Rabbi Nachman of Breslov (1772-1810)

Clean Your Surrounding
Trust me when I say that no one can ever be happy in a place when things are all scattered around, where fresh air cannot move freely, where sunlight cannot enter and so on. If you want to know how to be happy in life, then one of the most important things that you have to do is declutter your room, your surroundings and get rid of all negative vibes because that is what an unclean surrounding gives out; negative vibes. Be in a place with lots of sunlight and fresh air. They will get rid of all the negative feelings that one gets staying in a dirty and dark surrounding. This is a great thing to make you happy. Try it!

Do Something for Others
Nothing makes a person happier than the joy that he feels after helping someone in need. Whenever you get the opportunity, go out and help a person who needs it and whom you do not know and might never meet. When you are sad, just look around you and you will see people who are suffering, who are dying of hunger and illness and when you think about it, you will realize that the reason for your depression is nothing compared to them. There are so many people out there who need your help. After they receive your help, the smile that they give you (trust me) will make you feel happier than a million dollars placed in front of you will. A great way to learn how to be happy all the time.

Positive Thoughts
Fill your heads with positive thoughts. Do not for once, let negative thoughts enter your head as they tend to drag down your spirit. Always see the positive side of things. When you are sad, try to see the positive side of it, and you will feel much better. If you see only the negative side of people, then one can never be happy. Positive thinking helps a lot.

Listen to Music
This is another best way of learning how to become happy. Listen to some songs that will help you lift up your mood. Usually people, when they are depressed loves to listen to songs that are sad and that suits their mood. That drags you down further. Just do the opposite; listen to some happy songs and hum along with it, that will make you happy.

Compliment Others
Compliment at least three people everyday and mean it. It will only make them happy and feel good about themselves and if you make at least 3 people smile a day, that automatically makes you happy. This a great way to learn how to become happy instantly.

Count Your Blessings
Learn how to become happy with your life by counting your blessings. If you are feeling sad that your eyes are small, think for a minute about those people who has no eyes to even complain about, if you are sad that your friend forgot your birthday then think about those people who don't even know when they were born. Always count your blessings, and be grateful to God for what He has given you and you will see that you will feel much better.

Now you know the answer to your question how to become happy. Learn how to be happy with yourself and others. Just follow these steps and slowly with time you will be a person filled with positive energy, and who does not like a person who is always happy and cheerful and gives out positive vibes

LOVE

Are You Happy in Love? How Do You Keep the Happiness That You Could Have In Focus? think

 

 Being happy in love is one of those things that everyone longs for. While this can be an amazing feeling, it can also be fleeting. Too often love is lost or it gets bogged down by your day-to-day stresses. When this happens, it can be devastating. Or you may not even realize that you have love in your life that you can be happy about. The question is how do you keep the happiness that you could have in focus?
The first thing that you must do is realize that love is a gift and it comes in many forms. It can be romantic love, familial love, or even a friendly love. Take a look at your life and really be honest with yourself so that you can identify the love that you have in your life. When you get a solid look at it hold it close in your heart. Remember, when everything else is going wrong you have this love in your life and it is truly a blessing.
To be truly happy in love, you must also recognize that to have love in your life you are a very special person. You are lucky and you have been given a gift. Accepting this requires that you feel gratitude for your circumstances. Finding this gratitude can actually be a source of the happiness that you are longing for.
Now, how do you keep this happy feeling strong? The truth is that any relationship needs to be cultivated. Love needs to be reciprocated and nurtured. You need to put time into cultivating a relationship with the important people in your life. This may need to be a variety of different things.
The best thing to do is to determine how those special people give and receive love. What makes them happy? Now you need to try to give that to them. For example, if your child really thrives when you spend time together they may need you to spend more quality time with them. That quality time can bring even more depth to your relationship, which will more than likely make you feel more happy and content with your relationship.
When you are happy in love you must be cautious because it is easy to take for granted these relationships that have the power to make you so happy. Our world is filled with many different stresses and difficulties. It can be easy to let these overwhelm you. You can use the love that you have as sort of a home base to rejuvenate you. If you do that, you may be surprised at how much better you can handle the trials and tribulations that life may throw your way.

 

Just Be Happy

We all want to be happy. If we can just be happy, then all our problems will disappear. Despite the tragedies that sometimes overwhelm us, what we see on TV, online, or read in a newspaper, against difficult odds, we still persevere in our quest for that elusive and seemingly fleeting state of happiness.

Recently, I received an e-mail with the subject heading proclaiming: “I’m not happy.” My initial thought was that it was the sender’s problem, and not mine. After perusing the missive, which was sent to several others, I came to the conclusion that the person chose to be unhappy about a temporary situation. It certainly wasn’t as serious as the death of a loved one, but for some reason I was reminded of a passage I had read in a book by the Dalai Lama entitled ‘The Art of Happiness.’ The Dalai Lama recalls: “…I have lost my most respected tutor, my mother, and also one of my brothers. When they passed away, of course, I felt very, very sad. Then I constantly kept thinking that it’s no use to worry too much, and if I really loved these people, then I must fulfill their wishes with a calm mind. So I try my best to do that. So I think if you’ve lost someone who is very dear to you, that’s the proper way to approach it. You see, the best way to keep a memory of that person, the best remembrance, is to see if you can carry on the wishes of that person.”


No matter how much death and misfortune we’ve encountered, we all wish to be free from suffering. To achieve happiness, we can go about it in a couple of different ways. We can constantly pursue every material possession, or we can just appreciate what we have. The Dalai Lama writes: “So, the first step to seeking happiness is learning. We first have to learn how negative emotions and behaviors are harmful to us and how positive emotions are helpful. And we must realize how these negative emotions are not only very bad and harmful to one personally but harmful to society and the future of the whole world as well. That kind of realization enhances our determination to face and overcome them. Once we realize that, we become determined to cherish, develop, and increase those positive emotions no matter how difficult that is…now the secret to my own happiness, my own good future, is within my own hands.”


The above referenced book was published in 1998. A few years after having read it, I attended a public talk by the Dalai Lama. Being located near good old Hollywood, California, the event was emceed by the actress, Sharon Stone, who had to do some improvisation whilst the audience awaited the delayed arrival of the Dalai Lama, who was stuck in traffic. She even read the words ‘peace’ and ‘compassion’ from the dictionary she had brought along with her, and it struck me as a bit surreal. Almost as strange as the fact that the event was held inside the museum’s auditorium at the Forest Lawn cemetery – the final resting place of such household names as: George Burns and Gracie Allen, Humphrey Bogart, Clark Gable and Walt Disney. While I had read many of His Holiness’s books, seen movies about him, and watched televised interviews, seeing him walking towards the small stage just a few feet from where I sat was awe inspiring. There was the maroon and gold robed Tibetan Buddhist monk, looking as friendly and wise as ever. I felt very happy, because the happiest man from Tibet was in the room!


After giving a short speech about his favorite subjects, peace and compassion, he spent more time answering questions that people had written down on cards beforehand. The first questioner wanted to know if violence was ever necessary? The Dalai Lama simply answered, “no” but proceeded to elaborate a bit.


However, the next questioner was with a group of teens from a detention camp. Most of them were from gang-ridden areas of South Central Los Angeles. A girl, not older than seventeen, stood amidst her peers and read aloud her question. I don’t recall it verbatim, but two words stood out: cruel world. She then wanted to know what to do when someone got in her face. The Dalai Lama replied that Buddha himself didn’t have it easy. And he, as someone who had to leave Tibet, didn’t have a simple life. He told of how the Tibetan people were viewed by the occupying Chinese as inferior. He mentioned a meeting with a black man in South Africa and strongly emphasized that we are all the same. His Holiness looked at the cluster of camp kids and wished he could spend more time with them. The Dalai Lama called for the teen who had asked the question and sprung up from his chair and hurried over to her. An attending monk escorted the black girl over, and the Dalai Lama hugged the embarrassed but giggling and now happy girl. It was the most spontaneous show of genuine compassion that I had ever witnessed.


Sometimes I still act impulsively and angrily, temporarily forgetting what I had seen. But after a while, I calm down and recall that wonderful scenario set inside a cemetery on a midsummer day. A man, revered by his countrymen as a God-King, had been so moved by a young person’s anguish that he only thought to offer comfort. I think of how that teenager was hugged and helped, and so, in a sense, were all the others gathered there.

We aren’t all fortunate enough to be hugged by the Dalai Lama, but we can hug someone else in a time of need. We can just smile, wave, or if you’re online, send an e-card or an e-mail with some happy emoticons. And keep in mind that happiness is always there, within reach, free of charge.

Top 10 Ways to Be Happy at Work

 

Choose to Be Happy at Work

Happiness is largely a choice. I can hear many of you arguing with me, but it's true. You can choose to be happy at work. Sound simple? Yes. But, simplicity is often profoundly difficult to put into action. I wish all of you had the best employer in the world, but, face it, you may not. So, think positively about your work. Dwell on the aspects of your work you like. Avoid negative people and gossip. Find coworkers you like and enjoy and spend your time with them. Your choices at work 

largely define your experience. You can choose to be happy at work .

Do Something You Love Every Single Day

You may or may not love your current job and you may or may not believe that you can find something in your current job to love, but you can. Trust me. Take a look at yourself, your skills and interests, and find something that you can enjoy doing every day. If you do something you love every single day, your current job won't seem so bad. Of course, you can always make your current job work or decide that it is time to quit your job.

Take Charge of Your Own Professional and Personal Development

A young employee complained to me recently that she wanted to change jobs because her boss was not doing enough to help her develop professionally. I asked her whom she thought was the person most interested in her development. The answer, of course, was her. You are the person with the most to gain from continuing to develop professionally. Take charge of your own growth; ask for specific and meaningful help from your boss, but march to the music of your personally developed plan and goals. You have the most to gain from growing - and the most to lose, if you stand still.

Take Responsibility for Knowing What Is Happening at Work

People complain to me daily that they don't receive enough communication and information about what is happening with their company, their department's projects, or their coworkers. Passive vessels, they wait for the boss to fill them up with knowledge. And, the knowledge rarely comes. Why? Because the boss is busy doing her job and she doesn't know what you don't know. Seek out the information you need to work effectively. Develop an information network and use it. Assertively request a weekly meeting with your boss and ask questions to learn. You are in charge of the information you receive.

Ask for Feedback Frequently

Have you made statements such as, "My boss never gives me any feedback, so I never know how I'm doing." Face it, you really know exactly how you're doing. Especially if you feel positively about your performance, you just want to hear him acknowledge you. If you're not positive about your work, think about improving and making a sincere contribution. Then, ask your boss for feedback. Tell him you'd really like to hear his assessment of your work. Talk to your customers, too; if you're serving them well, their feedback is affirming. You are responsible for your own development. Everything else you get is gravy.

Make Only Commitments You Can Keep

One of the most serious causes of work stress and unhappiness is failing to keep commitments. Many employees spend more time making excuses for failing to keep a commitment, and worrying about the consequences of not keeping a commitment, than they do performing the tasks promised. Create a system of organization and planning that enables you to assess your ability to complete a requested commitment. Don't volunteer if you don't have time. If your workload is exceeding your available time and energy, make a comprehensive plan to ask the boss for help and resources. Don't wallow in the swamp of unkept promises.

Avoid Negativity

Choosing to be happy at work means avoiding negative conversations, gossip, and unhappy people as much as possible. No matter how positively you feel, negative people have a profound impact on your psyche. Don't let the negative Neds and Nellies bring you down.

Practice Professional Courage

If you are like most people, you don't like conflict. And the reason why is simple. You've never been trained to participate in meaningful conflict, so you likely think of conflict as scary, harmful, and hurtful. Conflict can be all three; done well, conflict can also help you accomplish your work mission and your personal vision. Conflict can help you serve customers and create successful products. Happy people accomplish their purpose for working. Why let a little professional courage keep you from achieving your goals and dreams? Make conflict your friend .

Make Friends

In their landmark book, First, Break All The Rules: What the World’s Greatest Managers Do Differently (Compare Prices), Marcus Buckingham and Curt Coffman list twelve important questions. When employees answered these questions positively, their responses were true indicators of whether people were happy and motivated at work. One of these key questions was, "Do you have a best friend at work?" Liking and enjoying your coworkers are hallmarks of a positive, happy work experience. Take time to get to know them. You might actually like and enjoy them. Your network provides support, resources, sharing, and caring.

If All Else Fails, Job Searching Will Make You Smile

If all of these ideas aren't making you happy at work, it's time to reevaluate your employer, your job, or your entire career. You don't want to spend your life doing work you hate in an unfriendly work environment. Most work environments don't change all that much. But unhappy employees tend to grow even more disgruntled. You can secretly smile while you spend all of your non-work time job searching. It will only be a matter of time until you can quit your job - with a big smile.

Give a Hug for Happiness

Hugs remain an important part of our daily happiness, but some cultures raise better huggers. For instance, North Americans exchange way too few hugs, depriving themselves of an abundant source of warmth and comfort.

So for a little motivation to increase your happiness, here are the top five reasons to hug somebody today:

    Save on your heating bills (good for the environment, too!).
    Keep your shnookums from eating that extra piece of double-fudge choco-blaster cake.
    Hugging sure beats crying.
    Love makes the world go 'round, hugs help you gather it in.
    The warm glow of a good hug lasts for hours.

So go forth and hug somebody. No, not the parking lot attendant. It's too cold this time of year for that. But hug someone who wants to be hugged, and see if you might just bump each of your happiness up a notch

Ten ways to be happy

  Best Ways to be Happy

1. Appreciate: The first step towards unlocking the secret of happiness begins with appreciation. Learn to appreciate what you have before you set your eyes upon acquiring that which you don't. Count your blessings and be grateful to life for what you already have, rather than crib for what you don't. Understand that no one ever has everything in life! No, not even Bill Gates! Now let us see how we can include this attitude shift in our daily lives. Don't like the fries in front of you? Be grateful that you have access to and can afford food; many, around the world, would gladly sell their souls for a mouthful of grass! Hate the shoes mom got you for your birthday? Realize that you are lucky that you are capable of wearing shoes; many people out there wish they had feet! Read through how to be happy in life to make the change.
2. Love Yourself: It is always good to improve yourself but first, appreciate who you are. Be proud of the person inside you first and then work upon making that person better. Diamonds came into being only after the potential of the mother allotrope of carbon - which doesn't even remotely resemble the precious stone that has come to be synonymous of beauty, grandeur, love and matrimonial commitment over ages - was realized! Be proud of who you are, only then can you discover what you can do. Also read through and learn more about how to be happy with yourself.
3. Be Yourself: You, as an individual, are a unique package in yourself! No one else has exactly the same qualities and attributes in exactly the same proportion as you have. Cherish this individuality and nurture it towards achieving a holistic and enjoyable existence. Chisel your individual traits and channelize your energies towards doing that which interests you. I do not guarantee tremendous material returns but I can promise that the performance would be unmatched and the satisfaction unrivaled! The joy that being you gives is highly contagious! It spreads to everyone whose lives you touch! This is the only way life can be LIVED; otherwise you are just SPENDING your life, trying to be someone else or fretting over who you are not and doing something because everyone else is doing it. There is no better way to be happy with yourself other than being yourself and doing what you like; other things just start falling into place! To quote Dr. Seuss," There is no one alive who is Youer than You."
4. Prioritize the People in Your Life: It is a futile pursuit to try to keep everyone happy. Face it, it never happens! Someone or the other will always complain or be dissatisfied with your efforts. So, start prioritizing people in your life. Sit down, take a deep breath and make a mental list of people who really matter to you, people who love and care for you and who are always there for you no matter what. These are the people worth bothering for! Rest are those who would always expect you to be perfect but would never appreciate your efforts to satisfy them. This category is not worth the trouble. The most they can do, when you don't cater to their expectations, is talk bad and, hello, talk never hurt anyone! Always remember what Dr. Seuss has said, "...those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind!"
5. Manage Your Expectations: Happiness, surprisingly, mostly comes from the simpler things in life! You may own a million dollars but you may still lose sleep over where to invest them and how to save yourself from loss. Expect less from people and situations, it makes accepting disappointment easier and still leaves you with the courage to try. This is true, especially, in relationships. When you expect too much from your partner or spouse, you indirectly put him/her under the pressure of living up to your expectations which puts strain on your relationship! This causes stress and at some point the thread snaps! A different scenario is where the pressure of expectations subjugates the person so much that he/she becomes too eager to please and lose their identity. This way, you lose the original person who had caught your affections! Keeping your expectations realistic is the highway that leads to all other ways to be happy in a relationship. Scroll through how to be happy in a relationship for more ideas.
6. Accept the Truth: Mis happenings occur in everyone's life at some point or the other. If you cannot do anything to reverse the damage then stop crying over spilled milk and move on. Life is too short to dwell on the past forever! Be it the demise of a loved one, the loss of an opportunity or the end of a relationship, if you can't do anything about it, cry once and move on. Negativity spawns more negativity. Unless you move on, you may not be able to gage other opportunities that lead towards happiness and fulfillment. For instance, people are known to have attempted/committed suicide and sunken into clinical depression on the termination of a relationship. I don't claim that such a situation can be overcome easily by positive thinking. So, let's try logical thinking, for a change! OK, so it's a relationship breakup and the experience is always unpleasant, if not bitter. Negativity in a relationship is, perhaps, the most bitter pill to swallow. Let's first evaluate the relationship itself. Was it a healthy relationship? If it was an abusive relationship, be grateful that it ended. As for the emotional hangover, you'll get over it sooner than you think! If it was a pleasant relationship, think of the happy moments you had together and be grateful that it happened, rather than cry that it ended. Were both people happy in it? If not, then realize that both people were liberated from the unnecessary pain and be happy for each other. Did it end due to personal differences or because of a third party? If it ended because of personal differences, then perhaps the differences were too great to have enabled a lifetime of togetherness and mutual respect. If it ended due to third party involvement and you were the one cheated upon, then might as well accept that your partner was not worth your trust and it is better late than never to be aware of infidelity than suffer lifelong emotional indignity. These are a few and practical ways to get over a breakup and be happy, even if the experience itself is emotionally taxing.
7. Stop Moping: Rather than feeling guilty over some action of yours, think out ways of making amends. If the damage done by you is irreversible then sincerely apologize and accept the possible punishment wholeheartedly. Accept your fault and learn a lesson from it so that it leads to your betterment. Don't entertain guilt or resentment, as it only pulls your consciousness towards abysmal negativity and hopelessness.
8. Be True to Yourself: You can be a master of cons and fool the entire world, but you can never fool yourself. You may pretend that you are immune to your conscience but it's just an act you, consciously or unconsciously, put up to pacify yourself. At the end of the day, you can never be truly happy when you are not convinced that what you have done is the right thing and was done wholeheartedly.
9. Keep an Open Mind: Be open to new events and different points of view. It becomes much easier to learn and share if you are able to accept differences in beliefs, opinions and faith. You end up gathering tons of knowledge and earning respect and gratitude. A narrow, dogmatic mind is like the frog that has never been out of a well. It doesn't believe that a world exists outside the well because it has never had the courage to venture out of the well. Let your mind venture on to new opinions and beliefs and then let it decide which ones to stick to; the rest can always remain archived as a collection of diverse knowledge and experience.
10. Be Flexible: Flexibility may make you bend, but rigidity makes you break in the face of a stormy situation, without granting you an opportunity to find a way of surviving. It is good to have strong principles and values but we must understand that while these may apply to some situations, certain situations may call for flexibility and out-of-the-box decision-making abilities. A flexible value system is not one that necessarily compromises at every step, but is that which knows when to make an exception for universal well-being.   

Happiness is within us and for us to tap. It cannot be extracted from external or material sources. We decide how we face life. Happiness cannot be taught by any teacher or spiritual guide unless we ourselves decide to be happy and make an endeavor to find our own way towards happiness. Focus on the present. Decide that today is going to be a beautiful day and stick to it! The past offers resentment and remorse and the future offers uncertainty and fear. It is only the present over which you have control; it is a gift of life, hence, called "present"! Live for today and make it beautiful for this is where happiness is; right here, right now!

Happiness

What is it that we are so afraid of? Why won't we let go?

A shark cannot rest, it cannot stop swimming or it will die, it will drown.

Humanity seems to be acting in the same manner. It is though we are running for our lives. We are being chased and if we stop we will die.

There is an urgency to get somewhere, anywhere, and we do not know what to look for or where, but it is always out there, somewhere.

Unknowingly we have left the place that we are looking for. From the inner peace that we experienced so long ago as children and as the person we once were. We seem to have lost our way and are running just for the sake of running. It is as though we are in a cattle stampede. One starts running and we are following blindly.

What happened to the peace, the serenity and joy of just being, what happened to our innocence? Somewhere along the way we believe that we have lost it, and that we cannot have it again. Someone told us to run and we haven't stopped.

The industrial revolution has pushed us forward in a frenzy to acquire things, the latest is always best, always desirable and it is the carrot that moves us beyond our means, away from what we really desire.

It has taken us away from our natural ability to be at peace, to be happy and content. 'Things,' have promised us happiness, but we do not feel happy when we have them. There is always a promise of happiness but never delivery. Things may be symbols of our happiness but they do not bring the promise with them, because there is another thing dancing in the shadows, calling to us, beckoning, luring us from one thing to another.

We are so far gone that we now believe that we cannot be happy unless we have a thing. We have forgotten how to be happy naturally without being stimulated. We have been told that we cannot go backwards; we cannot go back to the way it was before because we would not have our things.

This is one of the greatest lies that have been passed on from one generation to another. Happiness is where you find it we are told, and this is absolute true if we understand that we can find happiness anywhere if we are happy first. The thought of being happy brings happiness into our lives. Happiness comes from within and is not put upon us by things.

Unhappiness is created from the thought that we need something to be happy and this unhappiness comes from the very things that we are depending on to bring us happiness.

If illness, accidents, sorrow, suffering, lack and loneliness comes from an error in thought, then only the thought has to be changed in order to achieve the happiness, and once our basic needs are met, there is only room for happiness. When thoughts turn towards wants then they turn away from comforting human emotion, natural love, joy, pleasure, contentment and belonging. The simpler life is the closest we get to true happiness, because we become focused on it, it is what we think about and all thought becomes manifested in our experience.

"I can't go back, I won't, I worked too hard to get where I am and what I have; I won't live in a cave.

If all we really want is to be happy, why would we not live in a cave and live simply if it brings us back to happy. If we are heading in a direction that leads away from happiness, why do we keep going there? Is it that we are happy to be unhappy or that happiness does not really exist except in our thoughts? Is it that we believe that happiness does not last, so why pursue it? What is it that we do with the butterfly once we catch it? Is the happiness found in catching the butterfly or letting it go once we have been there, or is it both? Can we experience happiness without experiencing all its opposites? Is the joy of letting go a precept in experiencing happiness once we have found it? Must we turn away from happiness so that we may find it later? If we are happy and remain that way, will we forget what it means to be happy?

All of our experiences are this way, they are cyclical, and we cannot know what we have or experience it until we no longer have it. We must move away from it so that we can come back to it. So if living our complicated lives is not bringing the happiness that we choose, is it because we forgot what it is or are we now ready to return to it?

Is it that we are running from something or is it that we are now running towards it? The trip will stop when we know that we already have what we desire, we simply need to choose it. Happiness, joy, fulfillment, belonging are things that we do not have to look for. They are what we are naturally and we simply have moved our thoughts away from them.

Our things, our toys are symbols, but they are not symbols of happiness, they are symbols of trying to be happy. They are symbols that we have moved away from what we already have, what we know. In trying to make our lives easier so that we have "time," to be happy and enjoy our lives we have created less time to be happy. Happy is scheduled for events and things and then we are too tired. To numb our loss of the sense of happiness we drug ourselves so that we don't have to feel anything.

The truth is and always has been that we can be happy without "things," or doing anything. The sacrifice is that we have to give up on the notion that we need anything and we must be prepared to give up things that do not demonstrate our happiness. Happiness comes as quickly as thinking about it. Be happy first then go out and do things that represent happy to you. Happiness comes in the silent moments between events, when there is nothing left to do, when we have given up on finding it, and when we have done everything else. When we have given up on the notion that we have to find it, it finds us.

I don't know anyone that is happy all the time or even most of the time. I think happiness must be dessert. We have to go through the main course to find it. If dessert was the main course we would still move away from it once we had finished or had enough of it.

I believe that we can be happy all the time, but not experience it. As we get involved in doing the happy things we forget that we are happy until it enters our mind that we are happy. Too much happiness or dessert becomes irritating and mundane, like sex, you got to move away from it in order to appreciate it and be grateful for the times that you are experiencing it.

An emotion that comes from happiness is contentment, which is not as intense. But even contentment as happiness must be recycled. Life without extremes is none life. Life moves in waves and begins on the edge of all our emotions. Once you hand gets used to being in warm water, it is no longer appreciated as warm until you pull it out.

Once we let go of the thought that we will not longer experience happiness, then we will have time to focus on simply experiencing this emotion and it will be drawn into our lives. We won't have to do things to find it. Stop running, move away from the crowd, simplify your life become aware of your environment, learn to appreciate what is already around you and happiness will enter your thoughts always. Find the beauty in the simple rock, a blade of grass, or the people around you. You have created them, they are your wonders, and you brought them to you as opportunities to experience happiness.